Magazine April 2019

Parish Magazine ~ April 2019

The Rev'd Dr Gordon Giles

30, The Ridgeway

Dear friends,

We must congratulate the ladies on the choir, who have now been singing with us for a hundred years! In the Parish magazine of April 1919, our predecessors reported: “An innovation has been introduced into the services at S.Mary’s by the admission of ladies into the choir in place of boys, and we are very pleased to say that the change has met with very general approval. By saying so, we cast no reflection upon the boys who have just left, for they did their best and behaved well. But the ladies are older, know more of music, and fortunately are possessed of good voices. We hope soon to see the present number doubled, then with a few more men than we have at present we shall have a choir which we feel sure will re-establish the former reputation of S.Mary’s choir for good music….”

This, perhaps amusing but instructive comment reminds us of the great heritage of music we have here as we begin to see the end of the organ restoration in sight. There will be an organ spectacular evening on 18 May and Bishop Rob will come to Chorial Evensong on 19th May. Do make a note in your diaries! Before that of course we shall have our Annual APCM (which we mark the centenary of the PCC too!) and that will be followed by a ‘Songs of Praise’ service at which, hopefully, we shall also hear the organ sounding forth once again its merry notes. For let us remember that hymn-singing brings its own form of communion: communion not of bread and wine as such, but of sound and time. For when we sing a hymn we are joining with all those who have ever sung it, and indeed with those who will yet sing it, and with those, who are singing it on another shore, in eternal light. Joining in the songs our forebears have sung, we sing with them – we don’t just remember them, but we re-member ourselves and them as a great, continuous heavenly choir, reunited in the repetition of hymnody, ancient and modern. And future: for when we sing a new hymn of praise we are participating in a kickstarter - an emotional and spiritual crowdfunding of something which will carry us, and our successors forward into that equal eternity, where there is no noise, nor silence, but one equal music.

As we travel through Passiontide and Easter this year, let us always hold dear our hope: that throughout our lives, from youth to old age and beyond, we may yet ascend to that eternal, timeless, resurrection realm where we may dwell with all the saints in resurrection light.

Bring us O Lord God, at our last awakening, into the house and gate of heaven; to enter into that gate and dwell in that house, where there shall be no darkness nor dazzling, but one equal light; no noise nor silence, but one equal music; no fears nor hopes, but one equal possession; no ends nor beginnings, but one equal eternity; in the habitation of thy glory and dominion, world without end. Amen.


From the Parish Registers


11 March 2019  
Malcolm Warden

21 March 2019 
Barbara Abernethy

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For a PDF file of the Parish Magazine for this month please click here.

Regular Weekly Events

Sunday8:00 amHoly Communion
10:00 amEucharist (Second Sunday in month Family Service)
6:30 pmEvensong (or other ‘special’ service)
Please see the Google calendar for any further information regarding Sunday Services
Monday10:00 amMattins (BCP)
Tuesday7:45-9:00 pmBell Ringing Practice
Wednesday8:30 pmDrama Group
Thursday10:30 amHoly Communion (BCP)
7:30 pmChoir Practice

Barbara Abernethy RIP

It’s seven and a half years since we were last here, when Tom died in September 2011. On that occasion Ray Barker spoke affectionately and skillfully about Tom, invited to do so by Barbara. Time rolls onward like an ever rolling stream however, and bearing its sons - and daughters - away, we now find ourselves once again within these hallowed walls, gathered to say farewell – and thank you – to Barbara. Another little reminder of the time that has elapsed since Tom died – the period of time during which Barbara was without him – is that Tom died only a few months before we restored the wonderful chancel behind me. Barbara saw that happen, but Tom did not.

It falls to me therefore to share with you some aspects of Barbara’s life and character – much of which you will know. I first met Barbara in 2003, but many of you go back much much further than I – all your lives even. So I’ve had some help! – From David and Ian and Michael, from Rita and Eleanor and from Jackie.

Her sons tell me that Barbara was born in Guisley, Yorkshire in 1931 – the same year as Tom, whom she met a Church youth club after Barbara’s parents had moved to Sunderland when her father was relocated there. She and Tom continued to be involved in the church, helping with the Sunday school. There wedding was a nuptial mass– a wedding with holy communion – a significant sign of the continuing presence of Christ in their lives, through Word and Sacrament. Only a few days before she died, Jackie took her communion at Park Lodge. Rita was there too, and held her hand, as Barbara could still say the Lord’s Prayer and receive Communion. Barbara – and Tom too – was someone nurtured and sustained by the eucharist all her life. At the end, she still missed Tom terribly and he was always remembered in their prayers together – and Jackie’s visits with Communion dated back to when Tom was first ill. I’m sure we would all want to thank Jackie – on Barbara’s behalf - for that sustained ministry over more than a decade: quiet but vital – spiritual food delivery. And like Jackie, I’m sure all of us will miss Barbara’s friendly manner, her wry smile and her warm welcome!  And much more too.

After they married, Tom and Barbara remained in Sunderland and Ian and David were both born there. As Ian was deaf this led to a lifelong commitment that Barbara and Tom had to the national deaf children’s society. Tom’s work led the family to move to Kent and Michael was born. A couple of years later they all moved to The Glen, in Enfield, where there were a number of young families and they quickly made a number of close, life- long friendships, Rita and Ray, Marion and Graham, Eleanor and Peter among them. Barbara and Tom joined St Mary Magdalene’s and remained active in the church community until they became too frail to continue. Both were very community-minded and Barbara also supported the local scout group, 19th Enfield, initially as Baloo and then as Akela.  Sausage sizzles and camps at Tolmers were a staple of the scouting diet, as well as working for badges, and Eleanor tells me that Barbara once asked her to examine a candidate for the musician’s badge, who played the bagpipes! Scout camps of course, are not always glamorous or comfortable: often due to a ‘typical’ English summer, leaders and cubs could be found digging trenches around the tents to prevent flooding. Apparently it was also a tradition that the first dinner served at camp was a full Christmas dinner! As well as this, Barbara and Tom helped Ray and Rita restart a youth club at St Mary Magdalene’s and before long there were over 60 kids!!

With the 19th troop she was involved with numerous fund raising events including jumble sales, fetes and themed dinner dances. One such evening, known as ‘The Tarts & Tramps’ is remembered fondly and the family have some interesting photographs! Perhaps they will be on show later….

The boys remember fun family holidays, in the UK and abroad. The love of travelling continued and became more adventurous when the boys had grown up. Barbara and Tom visited a number of Eastern European countries when tourism was limited, enjoying the challenges that they met.

They also went to China, India, Thailand & South Africa.

Despite being busy Barbara enjoyed handicrafts. Over the years she had sewn and knitted - Tom had hand-made Sunderland scarves & hats, her sons had knitted jumpers (not always remembered fondly!) She made soft toys for the grandchildren and later for fund raising purposes. She took up needlepoint in later life and ended up taking requests from the grandchildren. She also loved jigsaws – there always seemed to be on ‘on the go’ as it were. She loved the garden too, watching the seasons, and telling the pigeons off.

Rita tells me Barbara kept quite a menagerie – including a budgie which she once vacuumed up into the hoover accidently – it lived to chirp again I’m pleased to say – and there was Thumper the rabbit who was tethered to the clothes line, and a lovely little dog called Dinky, who would follow her around like a shadow - and a cat named Monkey who used to climb up the curtains! Barbara ad Rita once worked together in an office in London and were told that they could only use 2 pieces of loo paper! That didn't go down well with Barbara and before long they were both looking for another job. And of course all their kids played together very happily for many years. Apparently Barbara once looked after Joanne’s goldfish who was called Joey whilst they were on holiday and he died - so Barbara and Tom measured Joey, and went to a pet shop and bought another fish.

However, when Jo saw it, she took one look and announced to Barbara ‘that is not my Joey’.

Barbara was a supportive and loving wife. Tom’s work caused them to relocate a number of times, the last time was to Oldham, leaving the 3 adult sons in charge of the house in the Glen. I’ve been told ‘not to mention the kitchen fire’… so I won’t. Barbara always rose to the challenge of making a home and involving herself in the local community.

In later life when Tom became increasingly frail she cared for him lovingly and diligently, enabling him to remain at home until he died.

Barbara was a wonderful mother, generally trusting her sons to remain true to the values that she instilled in them - although she was never shy of giving them further guidance. One memory sums this up for them: whilst attending a wedding, in the interval between the church service and the reception, her youngest sons, girlfriends and other friends decided to go to the pub for a quick drink. They were all sitting down just about to have a drink when suddenly Barbara came rushing in and, in front of all the other customers, physically shooed them out of the pub. She was very effective - they all moved very quickly and barely said a word. No-one ever argued with ‘Akela’!

Barbara must have worried when her sons had some madcap ideas, such as travelling to the Sahara Desert in Robin Reliants, but she never inhibited and always supported them. She welcomed all her daughters-in-law, making them feel loved and part of the family. And of course, Barbara was delighted to be a grandmother and it is a credit to her that all four grandchildren were so close. She has played with them, taught them, cooked with them, scolded and loved them and has been a very large part of their life.

But now, after 87 years, Barbara’s earthly life has come to its natural end, and she goes on to meet her Lord Jesus, and of course, her beloved Tom, in resurrection light. In this much, death is, as Henry Scott Holland put it, ‘nothing at all’ – for them now it’s as though life is past and they are in the next room, together. They can speak in a familiar voice, and there is that continuity, broken only perhaps by the last seven and a half years of separation. One brief moment and all is as it was before - only better, infinitely happier and forever. Barbara picked that passage for Tom’s funeral, and we have recapitulated it today, and now it is realized. This is our hope for Barbara, and for Tom – and indeed for all of us – that in that other realm – in that other room in one of those many mansions, Jesus, who is the way the truth and the life, leads us home as a shepherd leads his sheep – as a guide leads us through the wilderness to the banquet of the oasis of heavenly peace and calm. Barbara and Tom are citizens of heaven, and this gives us all cause for comfort.

Of course we can, and probably will shed some tears, but as the poem Rita read puts it, we can also embrace the joy and the love we have shared, and carry it forward into the rest of our lives. Carry it forward that is, until we ourselves are able to lay it down as we too enter into glory, in sure and certain hope of the resurrection to eternal life in Jesus Christ our Lord who died and rose again for us. And indeed, this is what we do now for and with Barbara, who now rejoices on another shore – limitation over, and fullness of eternal life restored and all hope and trust realised and rewarded.

It’s not so easy for we who are left. But it is real, and Barbara was ready.

So as we bid farewell, we anticipate the day when we too will rest in peace, to rise in glory with Barbara, and Tom and all the saints. Amen.

 The Rev’d Gordon Giles,

St Mary Magdalene, Enfield, Thursday 21st March 2019

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A word from Christian Aid

We know Jesus challenges us to love our neighbour. At Christian Aid, we believe He meant our global neighbour too.

Because of God’s commitment to justice and love for the poor, we can’t sit back and allow poverty to thrive. So together, as thousands of Christian Aid churches, supporters, partners and staff, we work hard to save lives now and inspire lasting hope for the future.

We each bring what we have – our energy, our voices, our influence, our money, our time, our talents, our prayer and our worship – and use them to work towards a world that looks more like God’s Kingdom.

Coming together really works

We continually witness how giving, acting and praying brings about great transformation in Africa, Asia and the Middle East, and Latin America and the Caribbean.

In emergency situations and committed, long-term development, we tackle the causes and the symptoms of poverty across the globe.

We choose our partners on the ground carefully, working with all kinds of local groups who see great need, and are innovative and effective in helping communities to change their situations.

Christian Aid Week 2019 12 - 18 May

Why get involved in Christian Aid?

Christian Aid Week is the single biggest act of Christian witness in Britain and Ireland.

For thousands of people throughout the country it is a way of answering Jesus’s call to help people in need and showing the community just how much good the church is doing in the world.

 If you are not a collector yet, maybe this is the year to become one. Maybe you feel you could just deliver envelopes but not collect. Maybe you feel you could not cover complete roads but just a few houses near where you live. Any additional collecting to what is already done could make a big difference.

If you have any concerns or queries or want to talk about how you can help do ask me.

Thank you,

Alison Reeve

Holy Week and Easter events 2019

Sunday morning coffee

We all enjoy our cup of coffee after the Parish Communion on Sunday mornings. This is prepared for us week by week by a dedicated team of Volunteers under the direction of Anneliese Fenwick. She needs more people to help her and if you feel able to join the ‘Team’ please speak to Anneliese.

Date for your diary

Our next coffee morning will be held by Alison Reeve on Tuesday 23rd April at 10.45 at 44 Ridge Crest. Alison would love to see lots of you there.

Rita Barker

Coffee Morning dates for 2019

April 23: Alison Reeve
May 21: Eleanor Pritchard
June 18: Carol and Peter
July 16: June Carr
August 20: Gill and David
September 17: Lilian and Colin
October 15: Jackie Fish
November 19: Gordon Giles
December 17: Rita Barker

Songs of Praise service

Mary’s Meals

marys-meals-logoI’m sure you will be pleased to hear that I have now sent £2,000 to Mary’s Meals. Between us we raised this amount over last year and I think it’s a triumph, given that we have also been so busy fund-raising for the organ. A big thank you to you all.

I know that we had hoped to support an individual school and so build a link but this proved a little more challenging and would have been a huge commitment. And in any case, over Christmas and up to the beginning of March, the government offered to match everything donated to Mary’s Meals to support their work in Zambia. It seemed silly to hang on to our £2,000 when it could become £4,000 and so feed lots more children. Once we have paid for the organ and some of the other big projects we currently need to fund, we can always look again at supporting a particular school.

In the meantime we will continue to collect for Mary’s Meals through our Dinner Money scheme and the next collection date will be on 2nd June, so keep on filling your boxes. If you don’t have a box then please do speak to me. I have plenty more!

Also we will be looking to hold more St Mary’s Meals for Mary’s Meals and the next one will be a curry night on April 6th at Gill and David Bird’s. There are just six places so, if you would like to go, please let us know soon. And if you would like to host one then come and speak to me and we can sort out a date. That would be wonderful!

Judy Smith

North Enfield Food Bank

Week by week we make regular donations to the North Enfield Food Bank and obviously their needs and requirement change with the passage of time. Below please find details of their latest requirements:

Urgently needed food items:
Tinned tomatoes, tinned meat, tinned fruit, tinned vegetables, tinned meat soup, tinned spaghetti/spaghetti hoops, instant mash, instant noodles/noodles, savoury snacks – crisps/popcorn/crackers, chocolate/snack bars, biscuits, tinned puddings, rice pudding, custard, shampoo/conditioner, shower gel, toilet roll, washing powder.

We’ve got plenty of:
Beans, pasta, cereal, beans/pulses (kidney, black-eyed peas and lentils) tea and sugar.


Items for the May edition to the editor by Sunday 14 April. Please use the magazine section of the pigeon-holes or email to Documents should be in Microsoft Word or plain text. If you know of anyone who would be able to help with stapling or if you are unable to keep the above dates please contact either Michael or Janet Dixon or Janet Whelpdale

Michael Dixon

Magazine rota

(10 am Saturday morning in the Church or earlier as arranged)

27 April 2019
Peter Lamb, Carol Lamb

If you know of any lady or gentleman who would be able to help with stapling, or if you are unable to keep any of the above dates, please contact either Michael or Janet Dixon or Janet Whelpdale


Coffee and a Concert

Enfield Grammar School Tour Band student led by their tutor Simon Tate-Lovery, played to us at the March concert. As usual the youngsters presented themselves well musically as well as in appearance. A good-sized audience enjoyed their lively music.

Once again, the coffee and cake event in the vestry was popular and well attended.

At 12.30 pm on Wednesday 10 April, the Anern trio, a professional group of musicians let by Nigel Blomily, an excellent cellist who has often played to us at St Mary Magdalene Church. Do come along and hear them and also enjoy coffee/tea and cake in the vestry beginning at 11.30 am.

Eleanor Pritchard

11.30pm – 1pm
Retiring Collection
Coffee, tea and cake available in the Choir Vestry from 11.30 am

Concert programme for 2019

April 10 – The Anern String Trio
May 8 – Gordon Giles: Flute and Roddy Elmer: Piano
June 12 – Robert Medina: Baritone
July 10 – Jonathan Newby: Organ

August – no concert

September 11 – Catherine Leonard: Piano
October 9 – Serafini Chamber Group
November 13 – Michael and Marion Smith: Piano and Organ
December 11 – Suzannah Knight: Oboe; Michael Lovejoy: Violin and Roddy Elmer: Piano

Fellowship News and Programme for 2019

The meeting in March was an update on the Thames 21 plans for the Enfield area. It described the way in which to avoid flooding of homes and businesses by creating ways to slow the water entering the river system with dams and making the river slower.

Some other ideas on water conservation were to stop concreting our drives, make planting beds in the areas between road lanes, use fake grass, and stop flushing plastics down the toilet. These and many other very simple and small changes that add up to a large improvement in our environment.

April 17: Mrs Lillian Gibbens. 2pm.

May 15: Zed will tell us about the Coptic Church in Ethiopia. 2pm.

June 19: Mr Andrew Tofts, Online personal & financial safety. 2pm.

July 17: Bring & Share picnic lunch in our garden at 12.30pm.

August. No Meeting

September 18: Haven House Children’s Hospice. 2pm.

October 16: Jackie Fish. 2pm

November 20: Making music together, Eleanor. 2pm.

December 18: Fellowship Christmas Lunch, 12.30- 1pm. Venue tba

Fabulous Frinton

Sign up for Fabulous Frinton

The date this year is Friday 26th July

We will travel there and back by coach and the cost will be £16 per seat which includes a tip for the driver.

If you would like to be included please let Alison Reeve know. You can bring any of your friends and family – grandparents, grandchildren, cousins, aunts and uncles...but children must be accompanied by an adult.

This is always a great day out and very popular. So Book Early!

Please pay before the day. If paying by cheque please make it payable to the church.

We will meet at the vicarage at 8.45am to leave at 9.00am

and leave Frinton at 4.00pm

Spring Fair 2019